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The Perfect Rose Origin Story: Catch Your Own Fish

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  Have you ever asked a question, and then spent your whole life trying to find the answer—only to realize, somewhere along the way, that you forgot the question you started with? Ever since I was young, I've been fascinated by the question of what is actually true. There was an experience in my childhood that changed the trajectory of my family. My mom used to say to me, "You don't remember. You were too young. You don't remember." And just recently, I realized— I do remember. I remember a few years even before the incident happened. I remember how I actually thought we were living this Leave It to Beaver kind of life. And then something happened—or was perceived to be traumatic—and it changed the whole trajectory of our lives. And I remember tugging on my father's pant leg and saying, "Daddy, shouldn't you do this?" And his answer never made sense to me. And I think that's where something began in me. Because when I ...
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Sometimes Mom Knows Better Than Any Guru

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    The past few years have been very interesting for me. Not wonderful by any means, just interesting. Interesting because the things that have been buried beyond what I have done work on and have seen have come up to the surface. And while they have, they have given me a sense of clarity about other people’s intentions, their pain, and their reasoning behind their behaviors.   I have always been pretty good at seeing these things, but in these past few years it has just become so, so clear. I also realized the beliefs that I had that made some people’s treatment of me and their behaviors a bit more acceptable than actually perhaps they should have been. I liken it to a story someone said to me years ago when I was working in an environment that over time continued to shift and become more dysfunctional.  My friend said,  “How do you cook a frog?”   I said, “Huh?”   They said, “How do you cook a live frog?”   I said, “I don’t ...
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  The Validation I Was Truly Seeking A couple of years ago, I decided to launch a Beta Group, marking a shift towards my deeper mission. It was time for me to truly embody my work, moving beyond just facilitating tools and modalities I'd learned from others. I wanted to surround myself with people who could fully see and appreciate the depth of what my conscious work could offer them. Unfortunately, a few voices in that group left me with a strange, unsettling feeling. For years afterward, their words echoed in my mind, refusing to be shaken or "let go." One client bluntly stated, "Who cares how people treat you as long as they get what they want!" This jarring sentiment would resurface, alongside other challenging interactions from over the years, constantly demanding my attention. Another client declared, "When people come to you, they want something from you. Your job is to give them what they want." My immediate response was, "If I gave everyo...
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