Cheering vs Helping Hands / Villain Moments

 

Cheering vs Helping Hands / Villain Moments

Recently I shared a moment where I set a boundary and invited someone to take aligned action.

But that moment sparked another realization — one that’s been echoing through my life lately.

Recently, another “character” showed up saying they were here to help me.
And in their own way… they did.

But here’s the twist: they didn’t see how I was helping them too, and honestly, their presence kind of disrupted my life while I tried to support both of us.

Here’s the truth about me:
I’m really good at creating solutions where everyone can win.
I see possibilities, pathways, and ways to make things work — like a human Swiss Army knife of solutions. 🛠️

But what I’ve noticed is this: in situations like these, I’m often the one doing most of the work.
Building the solution. Holding the space. Making it all possible.

This brought me to a new clarity:

If I ever welcome someone to stay here again, it needs to actually support me too.
Maybe that means a reduced rate and a clear role assisting with my animal work so I can take breaks and focus on my own life and business.

Because over the years, I’ve noticed a pattern:

• Many people have offered support — but it’s been vague or misaligned with what I really needed.
• Many offered encouragement from afar — like spectators at the edge of a marathon yelling, “Go! Keep going!” — but very few actually handed me water or carried the load.

And that’s the lesson: there’s a big difference between clapping and carrying.
Clapping is lovely, don’t get me wrong — but when you’re running a marathon of giving, sometimes you need real hands-on help, not just applause.

And here comes the funny (and humbling) part…

Even after helping, pouring in solutions, and creating bridges, I often end up cast as the villain.

I’d just helped a woman in a wheelchair — on my actual birthday, a day I’d hoped to keep for myself.
And yet, another person chose to see me as the bad guy — only noticing what they contributed, never what I brought to make it all work.

I was sitting alone, questioning myself, my gifts, my purpose…
And then someone shared a Gene Keys profile in a group.
I clicked. I read. I laughed out loud.

“Your Life’s Work involves knocking down walls.”
“The fates will always come knocking on your door.”
“You are here to stay open and vulnerable rather than becoming tough and closed.”

It was the Universe saying: Yes, Rose. This is exactly your path. You’re not broken. You’re living the work you came to do.

💡 Reflection for you:

Where in your life are you accepting “clapping” when what you really need is “helping hands”?
Have you ever been misunderstood or “cast as the villain” for holding boundaries?
How did you reframe it — and maybe even get a chuckle out of it afterward? 😏

Comment here and tell me. I’m genuinely curious how this shows up for you too. 🌹

With love (and the reminder you deserve real support),

Rose

P.S. Sometimes being the “villain” is really just my superpower in disguise — knocking down walls, creating solutions, and leaving people wondering if I’ve secretly been a superhero this whole time. 🦸‍♀️😂

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Courage Isn't Always Applauded (But That's Okay)

 Courage Isn't Always Applauded (But That's Okay)

There’s a line from The Princess Diaries that has always stayed with me:

"Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear. The brave may not live forever, but the cautious do not live at all. From now on you will be traveling the road between who you think you are and who you can be! The key is to allow yourself to make the journey."

Since reclaiming my show and reflecting on the journey of service, I’ve been thinking about what courage truly means—not the kind that gets applause, but the kind that sometimes gets you misunderstood, doubted, or even ridiculed.

I’ve known since I was a child that I came here to assist. I walked this path for years with little support, but I had the courage to follow my soul—to do what was right, love where I could, and stand up for those being harmed. I am soft and strong, and I still AM.

The Simple, Profound Answer

And yes… even though I’ve known all along, there are days when I stop, shake my head, scream into my pillow, and shout up at the Universe: "Why did I sign up for this? Why am I here trying to help people who don’t seem to care?"

Then I look out my window. I see the beauty of life—the trees, the sun, and a smiling baby in their parents' arms, full of innocence and wonder. And I remember. This is why. This is why I keep showing up.

My cat jumps up with dirty paws and purrs against me. I shake my head…then I remember…And I realize again… this is why too.

Years ago, my spiritual teachers told me two things that defined my journey:

• "If you see something in your life and you say, ‘Someone should do something about that,’ that someone is you."
• "Where you are going, you’re going to have to believe in yourself no matter what anyone says."

My job is to co-create a solution-based world, and I wish to do this with others who are ready, willing, and wanting to follow the road of peace, love, and solutions for all concerned.

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💡 Reflection for you:

Where do you look out into the world and say this exact thing: “Someone should do something about that…”?

Where in your life are you showing up courageously, even when no one sees or applauds?

With love, courage, and a little cosmic humor, Rose and Friends (Furry and Unseen)

P.S. Maybe you didn’t need a near-death experience either… maybe you’ve always known, in your own way, why you’re here. 🌟

#Courage #PurposeDriven #SpiritualJourney #TheWhy #SolutionBased #FollowYourTruth

Compassion vs. Enabling: The Day I Drew a Line in the Alley (Part 2)

 

Compassion vs. Enabling: The Day I Drew a Line in the Alley

Sometimes all it takes is a good scream… and a few heroic hands to show up at just the right moment.

I shared recently how I met a woman whose wheelchair was broken in an alley, where she had been stranded for two whole weeks.

The community had failed her, offering endless phone calls and empty promises ("nice" words), but no actual solutions.

When I stepped in and began the process of getting her a manual chair, removing the broken motorized one, and getting her a new phone, I felt an intense responsibility.

I’ll be honest: After hearing her painful stories, I felt overwhelmed. I wondered how I could immerse myself in this deep pain and still feel okay—how I could help her without fully absorbing her burden.

To be honest: I felt scared. What truly terrified me was the realization that she was younger than I am. I was concerned that the sheer volume of her despair would drain my energy and leave me unable to help either of us.

The Courage to Set a Boundary

This is where I learned the critical difference between Compassion and Enabling.

The next day, I showed up with absolute clarity and said something simple but powerful:

“I hear you. I’m not here to invalidate the painful things you’ve experienced. But if you want to move forward, I need a favor from you: start noticing these experiences and take responsibility for how you engage with them.”

It was a clear boundary designed to empower her. Doing this would make it easier to attract people and situations who genuinely care and can offer true assistance.

The Role of Laughter (And a Tiny Threat)

The tension in the air was thick, so I knew I needed to shift the energy to make the lesson stick.

At one point, I even teased her: “I got you that sexy wheelchair — but if you keep talking too much about the past, I’m going to have to spank that tiny butt of yours.”

She laughed so hard she nearly tipped forward!

(Full disclosure: I’m a little reluctant to make spanking threats a habit — some people actually like spankings, and I don’t want them lining up at my door. 😉)

That laugh did the trick. It helped both of us re-center and move the conversation toward what would actually help her next: action.

My Takeaways on Real Help

This moment taught me so much about showing up with courage:

• Compassion doesn’t mean absorbing everything. It means offering your full presence, but not your entire energetic bank account.

• Discernment in Action: Setting clear intentions and boundaries opens the door for true help.

• Empowerment Over Change: We can’t change someone else — but we can empower them to step into aligned action and find their own agency.

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💡 Reflection for you:

The people who left the woman stranded probably thought they were being "nice"—promising without ever following through. When have you needed to choose a courageous truth (a firm "no" or a clear boundary) over a "nice," hollow "yes?"

Share your experience in the comments below!

Lots of LOVE,

Rose and Friends (Furry and Unseen) 🌹🐾😇

When Screaming Brings In Solutions!

 When a Broken Wheelchair Taught Me the Difference Between "Nice" and Real Help. (3-5 Second Read)

Sometimes all it takes is a good scream… and a few heroic hands to show up at just the right moment.

I met a woman whose wheelchair had broken down in an alley. She had been stranded there for two whole weeks.

Neighbors had called the police and ambulance repeatedly, but no one could actually help her. Too many rules. Too many boundaries. Too many people "not wanting to get involved."

Even the ambulance attendants said they see it every day: people call for help, then move on—never even asking if the person is okay.

They just call, check the box, and leave.

And this is the heartbreaking truth that was revealed to me in that alley: If the average person won't take two seconds to ask a dying person if they are okay, will they ever take the time to use the discernment God gave them to truly think about this problem, or about their own actions?

This lack of basic courage and thought is the biggest problem. It's why rules and boundaries become excuses, and it's why she stayed stranded.

So, she stayed stranded… until I heard her screaming and crying — and stepped in.

In just two days, I was able to find and get her a non-motorized chair for immediate mobility. I then contacted a specialist for the broken, highly valuable motorized one. Unfortunately, whoever she had previously trusted tried to fix it and made an expensive mess. The specialist rightly took the damaged chair away, freeing her from that heavy burden and liability.

And the next day, I got her a new phone.

Every single one of these steps—the temporary chair, the removal of the broken one, the new phone—gave her the literal and emotional freedom to leave. Everyone else in the community wanted her to leave, but did nothing to actually make it possible.

This was key: I was able to find the real solution, not because I had more resources, but because I brought discernment, intention, and follow-through where others only offered "nice" words.

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The Hard Lesson: Compassion Doesn't Mean Enabling. (The Core Message)

As I got closer, I noticed something else: Not everything she shared added up. Some stories didn't ring true.

That's when I realized the deeper truth: The people who left her there probably thought they were being “nice”—promising, saying yes, yes, yes... without ever following through.

They avoided the uncomfortable truth—or said "yes" to look good or because they were afraid of confrontation. But when we do this, we actually create more pain than a clear, honest "no." A hollow "yes" stretches the pain far longer than necessary.

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💡 The Lesson I Carry Forward: Discernment and intention matter more than empty yeses. When our words and actions align, trust grows.

And that's the kind of space I'm called to create: a group of us ready to show up with courage, with real follow-through, and with the intention of creating positive change together.

If this resonates with you… you belong in this conversation. 🌹

Lots of LOVE, Rose and Friends (Furry and Unseen) 🌹🐾😇