Cheering vs Helping Hands / Villain Moments

 

Cheering vs Helping Hands / Villain Moments

Recently I shared a moment where I set a boundary and invited someone to take aligned action.

But that moment sparked another realization — one that’s been echoing through my life lately.

Recently, another “character” showed up saying they were here to help me.
And in their own way… they did.

But here’s the twist: they didn’t see how I was helping them too, and honestly, their presence kind of disrupted my life while I tried to support both of us.

Here’s the truth about me:
I’m really good at creating solutions where everyone can win.
I see possibilities, pathways, and ways to make things work — like a human Swiss Army knife of solutions. 🛠️

But what I’ve noticed is this: in situations like these, I’m often the one doing most of the work.
Building the solution. Holding the space. Making it all possible.

This brought me to a new clarity:

If I ever welcome someone to stay here again, it needs to actually support me too.
Maybe that means a reduced rate and a clear role assisting with my animal work so I can take breaks and focus on my own life and business.

Because over the years, I’ve noticed a pattern:

• Many people have offered support — but it’s been vague or misaligned with what I really needed.
• Many offered encouragement from afar — like spectators at the edge of a marathon yelling, “Go! Keep going!” — but very few actually handed me water or carried the load.

And that’s the lesson: there’s a big difference between clapping and carrying.
Clapping is lovely, don’t get me wrong — but when you’re running a marathon of giving, sometimes you need real hands-on help, not just applause.

And here comes the funny (and humbling) part…

Even after helping, pouring in solutions, and creating bridges, I often end up cast as the villain.

I’d just helped a woman in a wheelchair — on my actual birthday, a day I’d hoped to keep for myself.
And yet, another person chose to see me as the bad guy — only noticing what they contributed, never what I brought to make it all work.

I was sitting alone, questioning myself, my gifts, my purpose…
And then someone shared a Gene Keys profile in a group.
I clicked. I read. I laughed out loud.

“Your Life’s Work involves knocking down walls.”
“The fates will always come knocking on your door.”
“You are here to stay open and vulnerable rather than becoming tough and closed.”

It was the Universe saying: Yes, Rose. This is exactly your path. You’re not broken. You’re living the work you came to do.

💡 Reflection for you:

Where in your life are you accepting “clapping” when what you really need is “helping hands”?
Have you ever been misunderstood or “cast as the villain” for holding boundaries?
How did you reframe it — and maybe even get a chuckle out of it afterward? 😏

Comment here and tell me. I’m genuinely curious how this shows up for you too. 🌹

With love (and the reminder you deserve real support),

Rose

P.S. Sometimes being the “villain” is really just my superpower in disguise — knocking down walls, creating solutions, and leaving people wondering if I’ve secretly been a superhero this whole time. 🦸‍♀️😂

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