I Don't Like BMWs: The Burden of Unsolicited Advice

 

I Don't Like BMWs: The Burden of Unsolicited Advice

After my brother passed, I researched parts for his BMW, determined to find the most affordable repairs. I consulted a friend who knows cars and asked if my understanding of the costs was accurate. Instead of answering my question directly, he simply replied, “I don’t like BMWs.”

I stopped him. “I didn’t ask whether you like BMWs. I asked if I’ve figured out the time and cost of the repairs correctly!”

I had another, even more frustrating experience recently. I met a man at the gym and, wanting to return his generosity, offered him a gift: my healing work. I suggested he watch my show first. “I think it’s a good idea for you to watch it,” I explained. “That way, you’ll understand the depth of my work and won’t come in blindly, get startled, or become concerned when I do some healing with you.”

A couple of weeks later, I called him. “Did you get a chance to watch the show and understand how I approach my work?”

His immediate response? “You’re doing your show all wrong!”

I was stunned. “That’s not what I asked. I’m asking if you took time to understand me and my work. I didn’t call for unsolicited input. I’m trying to follow through on a promise I made to you!”

He wouldn’t stop. Honestly, I had to hang up. I was already carrying the weight of challenges caused by people I’d hired for the show, and his ill-timed critique was the last thing I needed.

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Beyond the Unsolicited Advice

This isn’t to say I’m unwilling to grow, shift, or change. This work is all about growth. But it’s also about deep personal alignment—about not becoming a puppet on a string or a show dog jumping through hoops to impress or conform to what others think I should be. My work is built on trust, depth, presence, and seeing beyond ordinary checkboxes.

It just gets exhausting to ask a direct question and consistently receive a completely different answer.

So, whether it's about car repairs or spiritual work, the lesson is the same: trust your intuition, stay true to your path, and focus your energy on what truly matters.

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Have You Ever Felt Unheard?

Have you ever asked a question and felt like they never really heard it in the first place? Or had someone answer what they wanted to hear instead of what you actually asked? Or respond based on what they assumed instead of what you meant?

I’d love to hear if that’s ever happened to you.